You're only as sick as your secrets. The secrets that are camouflaged behind curtains of pain, shame, or just flat out anger are the diseases that infect people who have been abused and have shoved all traces of that part of their life under the carpet. People have an uncanny ability to shield themselves from pain that was too vehement for their minds to process. It happens to survivors of car accidents, war veterans, and people who survived the holocaust, just to name a few. These experiences are suffocating ones and need to be opened up for examination, rather than sewed shut and scabbed over.
Recently, I conducted an interview with a person who has an abusive past. His insight to abusive relations was very helpful and quite detailed; which proved to be beneficial. Many people do not realize that abuse disguises itself with many different incognitos. However, if someone is able to identify with these signs and realize them for what they truly are, then these hidden forms of abuse are preventable and/or curable. Along with the abuse comes it's after effects. The effects of abuse are like pencil shavings, they exist, but they are obnoxious and are hard to get rid of. This is why it's so important to be aware of the aftermath of abuse and know how to treat them.
Many victims of abuse are unaware of the issues that they have gained while they were abused and some people consider seeing a therapist, but some are completely opposed to it. Those who are opposed to seeing a therapist are usually afraid of owning up to their issues. In order to maintain sanity, people need to be in touch with their instinctive feelings. Everyone has a “gut feeling”, and we all know when we feel it kicking into gear. It's hard to avoid that feeling, shove it into a bottle, and put a lid on it. Yet, some people are still able to do so.
This isn't healthy, and people know it, but they choose to deny all of their thoughts that tell them how wrong it is. Denial is a long, difficult river to travel alone. Almost like a redundant dead end cul-de-sac. It is an experience that can be avoided, and people can get advice on how to clear their mind of it's difficulties. Tell someone, ask someone for advice, or just flat out talking to someone can be the best thing to do. Doing something to avoid the pain and hurt of abuse is proactive. Being proactive is a learned lesson that is earned over time with diligence. Keep on keeping on.