Today at 1:46pm published on Facebook

*Please note that the following opinions are a reflection of my own thoughts, past relationships, conversations, insights, revelations, analysis, etc. Please ladies & gentlemen, don't take offense*

“Nice guys always finish last.”
Unfortunately, the above quote is true in many cases. For some reason, we, as females, are more attracted to the “thugs,” “gang bangers” and “bad boys” rather than the “nice guys.” The ironic thing is, often these same “bad boys” are the ones that end up breaking our hearts, and the “nice guys” are the male friends’ whose shoulders’ we cry on. Why is it then that we continue to make the same mistakes when it comes to choosing boyfriends? Is it because, subconsciously, we want to be treated badly? Or could it possibly be that we don’t know what to look for in a spouse? Hopefully, it is the latter (if not, I’ll be writing a blog about the other option soon).

“Mama’s babies, daddy’s maybe.”
As young woman, our first encounter with the opposite sex should be through interaction with our fathers. Regrettably, that is often times not the case. Some young ladies are blessed enough to have older brothers, male cousins, uncles, etc. to look to for guidance and protection, while others are deprived of that essential male presence that often times shapes our perception of males and what we should aspire to have in relationships. This lack of guidance could contribute largely to our ignorance of what to want. So, rather than looking for a boyfriend with a heart of gold, we superficially chase the guys that are outwardly attractive and inwardly lackluster. Simply put, we go after the stupid jocks.

Another problem is that we allow men to treat us more like court jesters than queens.
“ If you allow a person to treat you a certain way, that’s exactly how they’ll treat you.”
This quote is not only true, it’s D*MN TRUE. Let someone treat you like crap, rather than recognizing and correcting the treatment, and you can bet your minimum wage, part time job check on the fact that they will continue to treat you that way. Often times, females want so badly to remain in a relationship that they put up with and dismiss certain things. Then, once the relationship goes south, they sit around and wonder what went wrong…. Well, it may have something to do with the fact that he was a disrespectful butt hole to begin with and you let him continue to be that same disrespectful butt hole.

"Someday my prince will come..."
Ladies. Quit waiting around for that PERFECT guy. Try dating yourself. Go on dates, buy yourself those nice shoes you've been eyeing, go to that restaurant you heard about. Shoot, if you don't wanna date yourself, why would someone else? Have confidence in the fact that you deserve all of those things and more. Have standards and stick to them. Trust me, any guy worth having and keeping will respect you more for having those standards. There are sooooooooooo many *excuse my language* HOES out there today that if you present yourself as something different, the guys will take notice. I have two brothers who SWEAR by the fact that woman who are not easy to get are so much more attractive. Guys like to chase (especially the good ones). Let them. Show them that they have to work for you. They will appreciate you so much more if they have to break their backs to get you.

If you are reading this and you are a woman (young or old) let me just say YOU ARE A QUEEN! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! YOU ARE AMAZING! YOU ARE WONDERFUL! YOU ARE WORTH YOUR WEIGHT IN GOLD, PLUS SOME!!!!!

Don't ever let ANYBODY let you think differently. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity; like an amazing, wonderful, beautiful queen.


Jus think about it ok?
-Chels


Comments from Facebook

Tieraney S Ammons

My lil chels well one of them is growin up. Glad u know these things cuz some of us learn so late

29 minutes ago

Unity GqSmooth Brown

This is great Chels. Although the whole "guy & girl thing" doesn't apply to me I can most definitely understand where your coming from & relate.

24 minutes ago

Melissa Allen

OMG. i soooo needed to hear this. and i just stumbled upon your note on my homepage. girl, you have wisdom way beyond your years. and to heck with waiting on a "prince!" pssshhh. right now, i'm loving on myself more than my ex ever did. i say, no more waiting. the past is over, learn from it. the future is coming, prepare for it. and the present is here, so live it. and i'm living it up. with me, myself, and i. if it so happens a guy comes along in the midst, that's ok. but i'm not searching. that's a waste of my time and my effort. :) i deserve to be treated like a princess. i'm beautiful. and i've come to terms with that now. thanks!